Last week I wrote a post about sex, marriage, intimacy, seduction, habits, and courage. It was definitely one of my more personal posts and I will not lie and tell you guys that I didn’t have a hard time hitting “publish”. Luckily, just two days before that I wrote a post all about bikini waxing so I guess I was still feeling some residual bravery.
Apparently I’m becoming conditioned (or maybe you guys are) to just going ahead and telling you guys everything. It’s like my internet-self has gotten confused with my that-third-drink-may-as-well-have-been-truth-serum-self and I just say it like it is now.
Either way, I did hit publish and I was quite surprised and encouraged by the response. It was the most read post I’ve ever written and I got a lot of private messages and comments of the “Me too!” and the “Yes. Thank you for saying this” variety. Which only confirms that you guys are seriously the best and coolest and we really do get each other. I knew I could trust you guys. I just knew it.
One of my writing friends, Melody Reid, who happens to be a fellow Clumsy Blogger wrote a post in response to my own, sharing her perspective and insights on the subject and I wanted to share it with you guys. Melody is wise and she has quite a few more years of marriage under her belt than I do. She handled this delicate subject matter quite gracefully, while still being honest and vulnerable. I enjoyed hearing her thoughts and I think you will too.
Here is a bit of Melody’s response- it’s just a teaser really, so I encourage you to read the full article here…
“I read Amber’s post to Will while we were traveling this weekend, and it definitely sparked some conversation. He remembers that I did pursue him sexually when we were newlyweds much more than I do now, 30 years into our marriage. Amber and her husband have been married for 13 years. Our story carries a little more baggage with it than theirs does, so we’ve struggled in some areas they didn’t. But there are some things I can tell you at the age of almost 54 that I think contribute to the conversation.
Will and I met when we had both just turned 19. We dated for six years before getting married, and we laughed in the car today about the fact that I honestly thought that if I could sleep with him every night for the rest of my life, I’d never have another problem in the world.
I actually thought this.
Oh young love…”
If you want to read the rest of Melody’s post or any of her other writing be sure and check out her website over at melodyreid.com
What about you guys? I’d love to hear from you. How do you preserve and protect intimacy with your person? How as it changed over the years? Has it changed at all?
* This is Day 14 of a 31 Day series on Keeping It Real. You can find all of the posts in this series here. I hope you follow along and join the conversation! *